Choosing the Collaborative Approach

Shortly after the exchange of vows and “I do”s, conflict tends to become a third wheel in the life of a married couple. For some couples, conflict escalates to levels which require more than the typical resolution tactics, and some determine divorce to be the best course of action.

Sadly, in many cases, this creates even more tension, causes pain to family and mutual friends, and results in a judge imposing orders upon the divorcing couple which don’t meet their needs or long-term goals.

What is a Divorce Done Differently?

The collaborative approach is a better way to divorce. It’s an acknowledgement that divorce is the best course of action, but squabbling, bickering and avenging past hurts is not productive for the future of either party or the family system. It’s a peaceful, non-adversarial alternative to the traditional litigated approach to divorce, and one which works to preserve the family dynamic and protect the future.

Many choose the collaborative approach to divorce because it addresses many of the common issues which accompany the typical separation. The collaborative process works to meet the legal, emotional and financial needs of the divorcing couple in an environment that promotes communication, cooperation and transparency.

Why Should You Choose the Collaborative Divorce Approach?

Many couples simply don’t want to drag out their dispute, air out their dirty laundry, put their children, family and friends through the painful process or waste money on an expensive divorce. Working cooperatively, you and your spouse, along with the collaborative divorce team, will create a winning strategy for you to both achieve your goals and minimize the damage that commonly accompanies a divorce.

Collaborative Divorce Preserves Families

The reality is: Divorce is devastating to everyone involved, but no one seems to be affected more than children and family members. Because collaborative divorce promotes stronger communication, cooperation and transparency through the legal, financial and emotional challenges which accompany divorce, you will be more likely to maintain an amicable relationship with your spouse during and after the process. You will also be encouraged to work as a team to develop strategies to better co-parent your children and maintain other mutual relationships after the separation.

Collaborative Divorce Offers Customization

Through the collaborative approach, no two divorces are the same. Families are unique, people are different and the customization options are endless. Rather than endure a discovery and fact-finding process in a litigated case, only to end up in a courtroom with a one-size-fits-all settlement determined by formulas and standard orders, you and your spouse can develop a resolution that meets the needs of your family, finances and future.

Collaborative Divorce is Forward-Thinking

As divorce becomes a reality for you and your spouse, thinking about the future and what happens next can cause anxiety and raise serious concerns about the family dynamic, finances and living situations. Through tasks such as the creation of a parenting plan and co-parenting strategy, post-divorce financial planning and a cooperative approach to settlement options, collaborative divorce will work to create winning strategies for you and your spouse moving forward.

What’s Next?

Continue exploring the collaborative divorce process by learning more about the role of a collaborative attorney, seeing how the financial professional serves a collaborative case, the benefits of working with a collaborative divorce coach and how the collaborative process preserves families and protects children.