Fights and co-parenting: a perspective from the communications coach

Children can become a point of contention and disagreement in even the most amicable of divorces. As a communications coach, I see these fights and wonder how two people who say they want the best for their children can have such vastly different ideas about what that “best” looks like. Co-parenting is hard. Every divorce is unique, but there are some common mistakes that I see parents make over … [Read more...]

Communications coach: a look under the hood

Everyone understands the role of an attorney in a divorce process. However, if you are just beginning to explore the collaborative divorce process, you may be wondering about the role of the communications coach. You have been communicating your entire life; why do you need a coach now? Why do you need a communications coach? A divorce is more than just a lengthy and expensive legal process. … [Read more...]

FAQ: My spouse and I get along just fine. Can’t we skip the co-parenting plan?

Not every divorce is an all-out brawl. In my practice, I have seen plenty of couples where Husband and Wife are able to put their differences aside, have civilized conversations about their separation, and show willingness to work together to create an outcome that everyone can live with. Can that be a recipe for disaster? Yes, if the couple decides to skip important steps in the divorce … [Read more...]

Divorce and Blended Families

Here is a hypothetical question for you. Do you invite an ex-step-brother to your wedding? And what is the proper way to address an ex-step-grandmother? As bizarre as they may sound, these questions are very real for many people. Statistics are sobering: 6 in 10 second marriages (and 3 in 4 third marriages) do not last. That introduces unique and complex dynamics into the already emotional … [Read more...]